WHEN you're a newcomer to a group of friends, it's normal to feel a certain kind of pressure to be close to them. You would try to do the things that they usually do. You would exert an effort to like their interests. You want to be like them and be closer to them. Some people even tries to look like their friends by copying their styles, way of talking, gestures and fashion sense in order to fit in. They become totally different people when they look at themselves in front of the mirror and that is all because they wanted to fit in a certain group.

Do you really have to fit in? Do you have to change your looks and personality to be like them? Is that so important? Can't we be friends with them and keep our real identities intact at the same time? There were some people who even tried getting drunk, smoking and even drugs just because they wanted to "belong" and please their so-called friends. They would blame peer pressure but I really think they have a control over it. Why would you do something just to please others when you're well-aware that it isn't good for you?

First of all

Surround yourself with people who would bring a good influence to you. They should inspire you to do better and work hard to achieve your dreams. You don't need to share the same personality and interests. What's more important is that they know you and your aspirations in life and respect you. These are the kind of friends that you can consider as "gems" because they would surely stick to you through thick and thin. Be with people who would make you feel good about yourself and wouldn't force you to be someone else or to be like them.

Second

Stop trying to impress other people. You don't owe them anything. Be the kind person you want to be. Wear the clothes you're most comfortable wearing. Don't get drunk or go to parties just to be called "cool" if you're not comfortable doing these things. Don't mind what they're going to say. If they can't accept you for who you are, then I guess you're better off without them. And that is totally fine. Don't force yourself in their lives. You were not meant to be a pathetic. You shouldn't beg for friendship because the right people for you would eventually come and stay with you for a very long time.

Always remember that you are enough. You are a wonderful person and you should never let anyone make you think otherwise. You shouldn't change yourself for others and be less wonderful compared to who you really are.

Thank you! :)

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