We all want to change for the better. Whether we are looking for improvement in our productivity or our communication with others, change allows us to move forward. But for many people, change is difficult – especially when they are trying to change bad behaviors. Some people resist it and indeed resent it, especially if it is forced on them. So how can we make change a little easier? Here are a few tips.
- Have an idea or image of what the change will look like when it happens. This is like planning a vacation destination. Where do you want to go? You can’t get there if you don’t know the destination. Because we are so skilled at saying what we don’t want, it might take practice to focus instead on what we DO want. Be specific about the change you want to make.
- Focus on the solution or the objective. We live in a problem-focused world. Instead of focusing on why you have a problem, try shifting your focus and look at what needs to happen to achieve your objectives.
- Celebrate your small successes. We are so focused on the future; we often miss the things that are going well now. Acknowledge yourself and others for everything that is going well. In fact, try starting or ending your day with a checklist of 5 important achievements you can celebrate that day. By focusing on what is working, you are putting your energy into the things you want to grow.
- Strengthen your strengths and delegate your weaknesses. Check to see if the change you want is really worth it. By strengthening your weaknesses, you could end up simply mediocre. Instead, delegate those tasks and focus on your strengths and talents. That is how you become spectacular.
Making changes can be stressful because little changes can have a ripple effect on others. When you decide to make a change, point out the benefits to others so they can be on board. And don’t give up. Everyone else will adapt in time. And you will feel good about yourself .
Goal Setting for Positive Change
Set goals that matter to you. Is your goal really meaningful? Ask yourself why you want to achieve that goal. For example, if you want to do cardio exercise 4 times a week, ask yourself why this is important to you. Be specific in your answer. Focusing on the feeling and on your why will help with keeping you motivated.
- Break down goals into really small steps.
Starting an exercise program 4 times a week may be a bit challenging so start small. You want to set actions that you can win. Each time you succeed, you train your brain to believe. You build confidence and that will motivate you to take the next step. - Focus on the positive aspects of everything.
Negativity or complaining breeds listlessness, energy drain and struggle. Start to train your thinking and focus on the positive aspects of everything. Even your desire to achieve some goals is positive.
Did you know that most people don’t even set goals? They tend to float around life like a piece of driftwood on a rolling sea and then wonder how they got to where they ended up.
Notice the positive aspects in your life and you will be surprised as to how things go smoothly. You may find yourself working on your goal without much effort. It starts to happen more naturally. Less stress. More joy. That’s a great intention for life.
Summary
- Choose a goal that feels manageable, yet still challenges you.
- Be sure your goal is clearly attached to your vision; achieving it will take you TOWARD your vision rather than AWAY from it.
- Be clear that your goal is something YOU want.
- Have a plan that not only defines the major steps over time, but also the small, individual action steps you can take on a daily basis.
- Create some system of accountability; enlist the help of a coach who is as motivated as you are.
- As you work your plan, allow the process to evolve and be refined.
Remember: Awareness + Action = RESULTS