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The Four 'C's Of Connectedness

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CEO beCause Global Consulting connects: individuals & enterprises to core purpose; across silos in organizations; with external stakeholders.

Connectedness, or how people successfully connect to their core being and then come together with others despite myriad internal and external challenges, was always important. Now more than ever — when many are in despair about our divided world and harbor fears about an overwhelming present and an equally frightening prospective future — a sense of connectedness in the 2020s is absolutely essential.

Regardless of what goals you seek professionally or personally, you can’t effectively do anything alone; you must engage others. We are inextricably interconnected, whether we like it or not.

On every topic for which I’m known (e.g., corporate social responsibility, diversity, sustainability, multi-sector partnerships, etc.), there are a gazillion people far more knowledgeable on it than I. My unique expertise is connecting the dots between people, projects or initiatives.

Living in a new age, an unprecedented time with some of the same old problems and a lot of new ones, can be terrifying and immobilizing. We are threatened in our communities, nations and as a planet. In part, the Star Wars franchise is so wildly successful globally because people resonate with the battle between forces of light (open to others) and forces of dark (at best, fearful of the other; at worst, destroying them).

Throughout history, both have existed. Voices of light, compassionate, "care for the least of these" principles are at the core of most faith-based traditions. Voices of dark manipulate fear-based, xenophobic, nativist “us/them” suspicions. Light and dark. Love and fear. Restorative versus retributive justice. We each hold these and other dichotomies within ourselves. What will you choose to amplify, and how do you transcend the process of “othering”?

Connectedness is about participating and contributing, directing your talents, resources and efforts into what you believe is important, even when the odds seem insurmountable. Connectedness can help us in this time of arduous demands — individually and collectively. It informs how we can have fuller lives, earn our livelihood, develop relationships and redesign our enterprises, societies, countries and the world.

Connectedness is a mindset and the processes by which we can feel, and actually be, less defeated and alone. It sits on four pillars: communication, cooperation, collaboration and compassion.

1. Communication: We often assume one announcement will seamlessly cascade our message throughout an organization. We easily forget, are not clear about or underestimate the time and effort required iteratively for people to truly understand and be aligned with what we’re trying to convey.

2. Cooperation: In an increasingly interconnected world, every issue we try to tackle is related to others’ efforts. Climate change and viruses do not recognize national borders. No one individual or institution can solve these or issues like systemic inequality. We must build multi-sector partnerships, intergeneration coalitions and other forms of working together for our own benefit and for the human race.

3. Collaboration: This is a close cousin to cooperation with its own unique dimensions. "Co-creation" has entered the popular lexicon, but how fully do you really embody it? Do you still cling to the idea that your power is derived from your being the sole keeper of knowledge, contacts or skills? In fact, the more you share with others so that the whole is functioning well, the greater the likelihood that you’ll be successful with your endeavors.

4. Compassion: How deeply do we empathize with suffering? Do we act to reduce it? Empathy comes naturally to some and is more of a stretch for others. At either end and in the full spectrum between, we each can build stronger shared bonds with others. We can deepen experiencing our own humanity and recognizing it in others. Compassion is at the heart of living meaningful lives of purpose.

The reality and subsequent action born of connectedness involve embracing a variety of approaches within each of those four "C" pillars to achieve success and overcome obstacles. I’m not Pollyannish or kumbaya about this, as it takes great effort and, while the payoff can be enormous, it’s also fraught with difficulty.

Of the many different things I've done in my life, connectedness is the thread that ties them all together. Yet it’s never been clear and simple. At every stage of my life, it’s been a challenge for me, with resistance even in connecting to myself.

I’ve gleaned as much from my failures as my victories. From lessons I learned at the knee of my grandmother to insights gained from working with some of the world’s greatest leaders like Nelson Mandela, I’m inspired by the Welsh proverb, “She/he who would be a leader must be a bridge.”


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