Talking to anyone can be tough, but starting and keeping the conversation going with a romantic partner comes with its own anxieties. Whether it’s a new relationship or one you’ve been in for a hot minute, the task is the same: What is there to talk about over dinner/on the way to the movies/at home/on the phone/literally any downtime you may have together? (On that note, need some date ideas?)
Instead of spiraling—we’ve all been there!—consider putting together a thoughtful vault of questions to ask. It’s not just about filling talk time, it’s about getting to know someone you already like a whole bunch.
Ahead, we pull together a ton of options, from deep questions to ask your girlfriend to cute questions to put out there. You’re welcome.
In this article:
Deep Questions
Romantic Questions
Serious Questions
Fun Questions
Cute Questions
Deep Questions to Ask your Girlfriend
There are lighthearted questions best fit for a quick morning coffee at the cafe and then there are the ones you reserve for late nights and long road trips. The following questions are best for those latter situations.
- Who is your role model and why?
- What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made?
- What makes you the happiest version of yourself?
- What do you want your future to look like?
- How do you define success?
- Does the idea of getting older scare you?
- What was your childhood like?
- What do you do when you’re stressed?
- Where is your happy place?
- What’s your biggest fear and have you ever faced it?
- What’s the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
- Is there anything you’re too afraid to try?
- Do you have a favorite childhood memory?
- What do you consider your greatest accomplishment so far?
- What do you wish people knew about you?
- What do you think love is?
- Is there a question you’ve always wanted to ask me?
- What’s the most surprising or conversation you’ve had with a stranger?
- What’s something you learned early on in life that you don’t think other people usually do?
- What’s your best relationship advice?
- Are you comfortable telling people when they do something offensive?
- What do your parents expect of your partner?
- What makes you feel safe?
- Who are you closest to?
- How do you show appreciation for people?
Romantic Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Romantic questions can feel awkward at first, but it’s good to better understand your partner’s definition and feelings around love.
- What’s your love language?
- When did you know you wanted to be in a relationship with me?
- Do you think people were “made for each other”?
- What’s your guilty pleasure?
- What is the most attractive thing someone can do, in your opinion?
- What’s your favorite date night movie?
- How do you feel about PDA?
- How do big displays of affection make you feel?
- What is your favorite love song?
- What does your ideal date looks like?
- What’s your favorite memory of us?
- Do you want to get married someday?
- If you do, what does your dream wedding look like?
- Do you prefer fancy date nights or casual nights out?
- Is there a song that reminds you of us?
- When do you feel the most beautiful?
- What’s your favorite type of kiss?
- What do I do that makes you smile?
- How do you describe me to your friends?
- What’s something I used to do that you miss?
- What does falling in love feel like to you?
- What’s the first thing you thought when we met?
- What does romance mean to you?
- How would you tell our love story?
- What’s your communication style?
Serious Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
If you feel the relationship getting serious, it might be time to ask some big questions. (These are those questions.)
- How do you see our future playing out?
- What is your favorite part of our relationship? And least favorite?
- What do you want to do when you’re older?
- Is there anything you would have changed about your childhood?
- Does anything give you an instant headache?
- Have you ever run away from a situation? What did that look like?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where you you choose?
- What are your physical and emotional boundaries?
- Are there any signs that I’ll be able to see when you aren’t feeling well?
- What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
- How do you burn off steam?
- What are your political views?
- Are there any qualities you seek out in friends?
- Who has shaped your life in the most significant way?
- How do you define a strong relationship?
- What is the biggest compliment I could give you?
- What do you love about your life?
- What kinds of social situations make you anxious?
- How do you like to be cheered up or comforted?
- Do you think we spend enough time together?
- What is the toughest part of your life right now?
- Do you like hanging out with my friends?
- How important is family to you?
- Do I hold you back from anything?
- Do you believe in luck?
- Is being smart or being kind more important to you?
Fun Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Reserve these for new relationships, moments that need a little levity, and random lulls in conversation.
- What does your perfect day look like?
- If you could swap lives with anyone, who would it be and why?
- What does your dream home look like?
- If you could paint a room any color, which one would you choose?
- What’s your coffee order?
- How would you spend a million dollars?
- What is on your bucket list?
- What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken?
- What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
- If you could live in a TV show, which one would you choose?
- Do you have a favorite holiday?
- What do you think should be a holiday that currently isn’t?
- Could you set a world record for anything?
- What’s the most interesting thing you’ve ever eaten?
- Is there anything you absolutely will not eat?
- If you were a pizza topping, which one would you be?
- If you could have any kind of pet, what would you choose?
- Do you have a favorite movie quote?
- Do you wear slippers at home?
- What’s your least favorite song?
- What is one phrase you wish people would stop using?
- Was there one cartoon you were obsessed with growing up?
- Who would narrate an audio book about your life?
- Do you prefer matching things or pattern mixing?
- If you could eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would you choose?
Cute Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Consider these wild card questions, in the best kind of way.
- What would your superhero name be?
- What’s your favorite flower?
- Physical books or audio books?
- Spontaneous gifts or only for big celebrations/moments?
- What’s your favorite book of all time?
- What’s your favorite special occasion meal?
- If you wrote a book, what would the topic be?
- Are there any songs you know every single word to?
- Cats or dogs?
- What’s your favorite karaoke song?
- What are your favorite things to do with friends?
- Which animal would you be?
- Have you ever faked sick and stayed home from school?
- Do you have a middle name and is there a story behind it?
- How do you like to relax at night?
- Night owl or early bird?
- What is your ideal breakfast order?
- What song do you listen to the most often?
- What’s something your friends think is fun but you really don’t?
- Indoor or outdoor activities?
- Do you have a favorite scent?
- Who do you think your celebrity doppelganger is?
- Do you have a favorite nickname?
- What was your worst haircut?
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