The difference between being humble and downplaying everything.
We all know the extremely arrogant types of our species. This isn't for that. This is for those who are programmed to water down their well deserved accomplishments, achievements and good traits.
Scored 95% in school or bagged a new client?
They'd say "Wow! It's wonderful."
Many people's conditioned response is often something like- "oh it's not a big deal!" OR "an awkward thanks" OR worse "I just got lucky and the factors turned out to be favourable for me."
When in reality you put in so many hours and the job wasnt a cakewalk.
Why can't we instead say with quiet confidence something like: "Thank you! I really did put in a lot of effort."
And God forbid if you talk about your good traits openly and directly. You'd be a certified self conceited self obsessed human being by the power vested in others in no time. 😋😉
Why do only others have a right to acknowledge the good that you possess or the good that you do?
Eg- I am good at xyz and really good at ABC. I have nice hair. I think I'm really good in reading a room.
Where's the self conceitedness here when you aren't comparing yourself with anyone or stating you are better than someone. There can be many people with nice hair and acknowledging yours out loud is okay. I think some people need to hear that. It's okay. It doesn't make you self conceited or self absorbed. You can talk about the good things you do or possess healthily and humbly without downplaying it all. In my opinion, humble doesn't mean downplaying things or fishing for compliments.
