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Is Money like a one night stand? It felt great at the time and you were planning on a second date. ….it all felt so good. And then suddenly it's gone….and you've no idea what happened. Dating money is no problem, because making more isn't an issue. Keeping it and holding it is leaving you feeling like you're in a situationship when deep down you're marriage material. It seems that no matter how much you have, earn or make, it seems to vanish. Leaving you wondering where the hell it went and whether it'll return. I hear ya! Because I remember when holding money felt like sand running through my fingers. I was a serial dater of money… I'd make it, receive it and WHOOOSH, it'd be gone in a FLASH. I'd never know where the hell it went or when it was returning. I craved its existence.. Yet when I had it it never stayed long in my world. These were my patterns for years. Money came in, money went out.. Like a revolving door. I'd find ways to spend it, repel it and reject it. Why?! Because I didn't feel worthy of having it. I didn't feel I deserved to have the beautiful home, nice cars, caring husband and beautiful family. So I rejected every part of what I had, and myself. I sabotaged every inch of love and money. I hid from it, avoided it and did anything to not look at the common denominator. ME…. Until things changed. Until “ I” changed and began to look in the mirror and see that only I could make things different. Until I created neutrality around money in my body and bank account. Until I realised that only I was making myself not feel worthy of it. Because it doesn't matter how much money comes in, if your relationship with money is poor. If you feel unworthy of having it. Your subconscious will find a way to repel, reject and spend it. And there are many this will happen 💥 over generosity 💥buying unnecessary items 💥 over-rewarding yourself for working hard 💥 purchasing unnecessary courses/ products 💥 unconsciously tapping your card This is why working on budgeting and planners won't work unless you raise your consciousness on why your relationship with money is the way it is. And that is where the answer lies.. Within YOU. There are 5 different phases of Relationship Building with Money, and I cover them in Wealthy Within. And why working on these 5 aspects are a complete game changer. Not only will you continue to make more, but you can imagine having more in your bank account and one night money stands are no longer an option. Can you imagine having the best marriage to money… Then there are 2 options to do this work where we get under the hood of your relationship with cash, and start to understand WHY its happening. Leading to holding more and receiving more. 6 week 1:1 Programme 6 Week Group Programme commences 23rd April DM- Wealth to dive in and get started.

(Story Challenge Day 23) There's a myth that unless you and your spouse have the same views on money, you won't be able to work together, have a shared vision for your future, or work towards your goals (hello, debt free, emergency fund, traveling, and retiring!). I call bull. You're separate individuals with different personalities, experiences and views. That's what drew you to each other; opposites attract! I see so much frustration, lack of communication, and fear of control. There's avoidance, fights, and a sinking feeling that you and your spouse are drifting apart in this area. You want to be on the same page, but your views and wants are so different, how could you possibly work together? Can I share a secret? My husband and I don't see eye to eye on everything in the finances. And we're okay with that. What I described was me. Frustrated, no communication, scared of not having my way. It was one of the reasons we got divorced. Now that we're remarried, had A LOT of growth, work on our communication, and have God at the center of our marriage, we work together on our money. It's peaceful. There's less tension. We feel accomplished because we're a team. We're reaching our goals of staying debt free and saving our 6 month emergency fund! How did we get here? This is an approach I use when working with couples to get in the same book, when they're not in the same library: -Realize that money is a symptom of something deeper. Money is not the problem. Money touches EVERY aspect of our lives; it's often a place where the problem manifests. -Know that your spouse isn't an enemy. We have traumas that change how we view life. When those manifest in opposite ways, it can feel like your spouse is an enemy. They're not. They're just as scared and frustrated by your behavior. -Have a dream team night. What do you want life to look like in 5 years? Ask questions, shush and listen with curiosity, not judgement. They may have different dreams than you, and that's okay. If you listen well, you will pick up on similar patterns. Use that to find common ground and start discussing how to go forward. This is what grew our trust in each other, healed wounds from continual arguing, and helped us see each other in a light of compassion, empathy, and teamwork. We put aside selfish desires and learned to compromise for the good of our marriage. While what I do is similar to therapy, it's different. I don't work on healing the past. I bring to the surface the patterns that are creating the pain, address them, and show you a path to move forward so you and your spouse can thrive together with purpose. It's hard work but worth it. You will have to face yourself in the mirror, but that's the only way to grow. If you and your spouse make decent money but feel like you're stuck and want to make money a team effort, DM me for a conversation if working together is a good fit. You don't have to feel alone about money in your marriage anymore!

When you start putting yourself first, other people are going to judge. 🧑⚖️ This is just a fact. It might not be harsh and overt from everyone, but it will be from some people. Maybe even the people you’re closest to. It may be a well-meaning parent who will say, "But we spent so much on your education, and now you want to stay at home with the kids?" Or a mother-in-law who says, "Oh, you’re going back to work already? When my kids were little, I gave up my career because I couldn’t imagine them being raised by a stranger. But good for you!!!" Or even your best friend who wants nothing but the best for you but projects her own fears and concerns when you tell her about the big thing you want to do. Does it sting? Sure! Of course! 😣 But don’t let those comments stop you. Get clear on what you want from life, whether it's small, like... ⭐️ Sitting down for dinner with your family every night. ⭐️ Going for a daily hike with your dog. ⭐️ Reading for an hour a day. Or big, like... ⭐️ Giving large annual donations to your favorite causes. ⭐️ Paying for your kid's college so they don't start adulthood in debt. ⭐️ Taking that summer-long vacation without wondering how your business will hold up Even if people poke fun at you for “failing,” you didn’t die! Nobody did! And there’s a good chance their snarky comments are rooted in jealousy that you had the guts to go for it, and they don’t. When you look at it through the lens of compassion, it can take some of the sting out of their words. And know that by going for it, you're acting in self-compassion, so you'll never have to wonder, "What if." This is a radical move, and it wouldn't be the start of something hugely possible and disruptive without a few people voicing their concerns or questioning why they didn't think of it first. YOU'VE GOT THIS! 👊 If you're looking for affirmation that your rebellious, revolutionary, industry-innovative mind and actions are just what this world needs, check out my book "You've Got This: A Counterintuitive Guide to Powerful, Inevitable, Changemaking," and get the first chapter for FREE! ➡️ https://lnkd.in/ggfXQ_zw

I have a confession. I used to hold onto money with a clench fist because I was terrified of spending it. I would freak out if something came up that was unexpected, or what I felt we didn't need that wasn't already planned for. I had a major scarcity mindset. I was afraid that if I spent the money on "X," then "Y" would come along and we wouldn't have enough. It seemed that no matter how much I tried to hold on to, we couldn't move the needle on paying off debt or saving, which created more fear and feeling stuck. That mindset didn't serve me or my marriage. When God had us between a rock and a hard place where we couldn't pay the bills on paper, and going out and getting another job felt like disobedience to Him, I learned what it meant to surrender EVERYTHING to Him and trust Him for daily bread. That's where my trust and surrender work came in, and peace started to fill my mind. I shifted to an "abundance mindset" where I trust that God will provide for my needs and there will be enough. I've learned that IT'S OKAY to spend money. To invest in myself. To buy that cute pair of basset hound socks that are stupidly overpriced; I have the fun money to spend. It started with investing in therapy to overcome trauma and anxiety. Then, realizing I'm worth being healthy and getting a nutrition meal replacement to help me function optimally. I started spending my fun money instead of hanging onto it. Last month, I had an amazing massage that REALLY helped my muscles, and had no problem booking the next one. I invested massively in my own coach and mastermind that has completely transformed my thinking, writing, and messaging. You know what's really cool? I fully trust that God is providing all our needs, and that it's OKAY to enjoy our income, as long as it's responsibly and with a plan. We are still working towards our money goals, but with less fear, anxiety, and green grinch fingers clutching onto every penny I can. I was afraid to spend money because I didn't think there would be enough. Now, I know that I'm worth investing in. I'm a child of God, and He gives good gifts to His children... including enjoying His blessings. Do you feel afraid to spend money? Would you like some help getting your money and mindsets around money under control so you can let go of fear and feel confidence and peace? If you're ready to say, "I'm worth it! What I'm doing isn't working with my finances, and I'm ready to make a change," shoot me a DM to set up a Money Strategy Session. We will get to know each other, see where you're at with your money and what hurdle's you're facing, where you'd like to be and how you want to feel about money, and if working together is a good fit to get you there. You don't have to be a Grinch who is afraid to spend, and deal with the money stress. You can shift to a healthy abundance mindset and have peace, confidence, and a structured plan with your money to create stability...in you, and your bank account.

#newdaynewchapter Recently, I asked someone to pay me back some money they owed me which was overdue. This guy had been spending quite freely on himself, but, conveniently, hadn't paid me back. His response was anger, he attacked my character, and the conversation became everything but the money owed to me and him paying it back. Quite a contrast in attitude to when I was giving the loan - I was a nice guy then. The fact remains that he owes me my money. I've seen this time and time again. When you ask someone to pay you back a loan you'll, more often than not, find out a part of their character that you never knew about before you asked. My mother once advised me; “Listen beta, only lend money to friends if you’re prepared to lose that money.” Great advice, but I’d add; “and if you’re prepared to lose the friendship.” Cooking and cleaning is a basic life skill and not a gender role. If you don’t clear your misunderstanding in time, they became the reason for distance forever. If you want it, work for it. It’s that simple. The gap between the life you could live and the life you are living is called focus. If you’re not dating to marry, then you’re dating for heartbreak. Let that sink in and be in serious relationship. Stop comparing yourself with who started 10 years before you. Focus on your own journey. Confidence is not “I’m better than them”, confidence is “I’m great, so are they” Every time I lower my frequency to meet someone on their level I end up paying for it. That’s a lesson I really don’t need to learn anymore. Rise up to meet me. Real growth is when you start checking and correcting yourself. Instead of blaming others, you take your power back by being responsible for your life. You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. And there is always, always, always something to be thankful for. As a young boy, I had a weird habit. After putting me to sleep, my mother used to spend some time to read books and pray. Once done, before going to her bedroom, she used to come to my room, open the door slightly, crane her neck to see if I am asleep. Then, she used to come in and check if she had tucked me in well, check the windows and go back. The evil prick that I was, at times, I used to deliberately slide off a part of the sheet near my legs and pretend to be asleep. She would come, open the door, carefully walk toward me. I could hear her footwear click clearly. Once near me, she would cautiously squat, lift the fallen part of the sheet and put it back over me, tuck it under my legs meticulously. Then she would come near my face stealthily, ruffle my hair gently and run her fingers over my face imperceptibly. As her fingers thread through my hair, my heart would rejoice. Oh my mother love you so much, be there for me always, AMEN!

What is your relationship like with Money? How do you talk about it? How do you talk to it? Are you in a loving, committed relationship with Money or do you scare Money away? Do you blame Money for problems in your life? I LOVE talking about Money and TO Money because it's one of the most important relationships we'll ever have. Money is necessary for life, especially if you want to live a vibrant, deeply connected, and expansive life. If you want to build your life around your soul mission, it's even more crucial for you to have a lot of money to take care of yourself. One of the exercises I go through with my new clients is basically a couples counseling session with You and Money. I've been working on my relationship with Money for a couple of years, and I still get caught up in the matrix of fear and scarcity sometimes. It's part of being human and there are a lot of humans out there addicted to having a bad relationship with Money. Literally, as I'm typing this post at a coffee shop the person next to me is complaining about money and telling the person they're talking to on the phone, "It must be nice to have that kind of money! I sure don't!" This is why who you spend your time with matters. Your frequency is your currency. If you are around people who talk about their money problems, you will stay caught up in the matrix. Money is not the enemy. Money wants to be your bestie. Your soulmate partner. Your silver fox angel investor. Your everything. Money is just a physical manifestation of Abundance. That is why gratitude attracts more things to be grateful for. It's the same with Money. If you're grateful for every dollar that comes out of your account to pay bills, the $7 lottery winning, and the penny you found on the ground, more money is likely to show up. Making money doesn't have to be hard. Attracting money can be even easier! It's all about your ability to RECEIVE. Are you a good receiver? When someone gives you a compliment, do you say "thank you" and move on or do you feel required to give a compliment back? Money will not come in if you are not a good receiver. If you want to shift your relationship with Money and Abundance, now is the best time to jump into a 1:1 container with me. You can learn about my VIP Day offering, 30 Days of Clarity Coaching, and 6-Month Transformational Journey here: https://lnkd.in/gRFZrb3e You can receive free energy healing (for the pituitary, pineal, and thymus) in my latest solo sode on The Biz Alchemist podcast here: https://lnkd.in/g2FZ-jJp

The other night, I came home exhausted and starving after a long day at school. I checked my phone and saw 999 email notifications. Most of them were bills, reminders, and spam. As if that wasn't enough, I also got bombarded with messages from my relatives asking me for money. You know how it is when you're the potential firstborn. Everyone expects you to be their ATM. - "Aunty Victory, they say I should buy a textbook in school, Mummy said she doesn't have money and the deadline is tomorrow" - "Sis, can you help me with 10k" - "Hey Ava, can you help me with urgent 2k?" - "Guy, I need your help. Can you borrow me 100k?" Jeez!!! I felt a surge of anxiety and dread. How am I supposed to handle all this? I wished I could go back to being a kid when I didn't have to worry about money, responsibilities, or the future. I remember how my mom used to yell at me whenever I asked for money. She always said money doesn't grow on trees. Now I understand what she meant. Money is constantly flowing out of my account, faster than I can earn it. Adulthood is a cruel game, where you have to hustle every day to survive. Money is the ultimate currency, the universal whore. It's everything in life, whether we like it or not. That's why I urge you Guys, to take your financial situation seriously. Don't let anyone tell you money is not important. They are lying or delusional. Money is power, freedom, and happiness. Make money! Make money!! Make money!!! That's the mantra you should repeat every day. But don't let money consume you or define you. Remember that you are not alone in this struggle. There are millions of people like us who are trying to make it in this world. We are all in this together. And every time you face a challenge, a setback, or a disappointment, don't give up. Don't lose hope. Don't forget who you are and what you stand for. You are a responsible adult. You are a hardworking student. You are a loving family member. You are a valuable human being. You have what it takes to overcome any obstacle and achieve any goal. You are awesome. In everything you do in life keep making money 💰💰💰

Here’s THE message I need you to hear. Stop chasing the money. And here’s why. → Chances are, you’ll work for 30-40 years of your life → If it’s about the money, you’ll be mostly miserable → You’ll feel like you’re “forcing” it = burnout → Your gift (s) won’t be expressed → You’ll suffer on the inside And I know what you’re going to say. Melissa…that’s cute, but… → I need money to live  → You’re living in a fantasy world → People don’t get to just do as they please  → I want stuff (nice house, car, vacations) → My kids though…they cost a lot. And I do get that. Trust me. I chased it for nearly 20 years. And guess what? I did indeed make good money. I have a nice house, and a decent car, and I take vacations. But also guess what…. → I’ve struggled internally for most of my life  → I ended up with debilitating anxiety a few years back → I’ve had to deal with severe pain in my body for about a decade now → To say I’ve been mostly stressed is an understatement → I sacrificed time with family and friends; I won’t ever get back I did not make a change until I realized.... I was scared shitless of doing life like my parents did. They always struggled with money. So, I pushed and pushed till the wheels fell off. And I kept on until… I realized I could do work I love ANNNNNNNNND make money. What a concept. You don’t need to give up one for the other. But so many people are … Either starving artists (doing what they love, with no money). OR… Making money, and starving in other ways because they don’t love what they do. It’s officially time my friend, to do BOTH. Have a GOOD life, AND do work you love. So, start today, okay? If you’re miserable but have money, know you can do something else AND have money. If you love the work you’re doing but have no money - know you can keep doing the work you love but find a way to make money doing it. Let’s ditch the OR and think in terms of AND!! Have you found work you love AND you make money doing it? Comment below! I'd love to showcase you as an example of having BOTH! PS, let’s stop equalling making money with suffering, shall we? Let’s break the cycle!

LIFE LESSON Author Unknown SON: "Daddy, may I ask you a question?" DAD: "Yeah sure, what is it?" SON: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?" DAD: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?" SON: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?" DAD: "If you must know, I make $100 an hour." SON: "Oh! (With his head down). SON: "Daddy, may I please borrow $50?" The father was furious. DAD: "If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior." The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money? After about an hour, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door. DAD: "Are you asleep, son?" SON: "No daddy, I'm awake". DAD: "I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $50 you asked for." The little boy sat straight up, smiling. SON: "Oh, thank you daddy!" Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father. DAD: "Why do you want more money if you already have some?" SON: "Because I didn't have enough, but now I do. "Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I want to play with you." The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

Ten MONEY MYTHS I am Happily Destroying for You - PART 03 {Continued from Part 02} 6. “If you are a coach or healer, money can only come to you when you have a website, a certification, 100 different skills, and your self worth totally fixed." I get tired. Like literally tired, b*tch. I Of telling people that you don't need fancy certifications, you don't need website, you don't need to know 20 modalities, you don't need 100k insta audience. To make the f*cking MONEY!! You simply need to speak to ONE person. Tell them that you can help them and offer them your trust and safety. You just need one person to believe that you are a relational being. That you are compassionate, empathetic and you can guide them through their difficult time. That they can reach out to you and you will hold space for them. It's the bond that creates the money, not the website or the certificate!! ⚡️⚡️ 7. Making a lot of money means I will have to give up on my family time. I may even lose my independence and freedom. My calendar will be super blocked." I think this thought is very sneakily attached with “more money means more sacrificed." And below that thought is another micro thought that money comes at the cost of something. This is hugely common among middle class population. Families like mine, where we were constantly told that "money isn't the end goal. People who chase money end up losing everything. That business men have the most volatile, uncertain, unstable lives." And we were even shown examples of women who might be career oriented, independent or bread winner and how they'd end up losing their marriage, kids and live alone. Patriarchy has programmed this baseless fear in us that if we are money-minded, clearly, we will have to lose eveything. Especially if it's a woman. Because — patriarchy doesn't like its ego being abolished by a woman. And thus, there is a collective narcissism at play. My recommendation is always to get yourself more and more aware and more and more educated around money and question: if it is true that one has to give up love and family in order to make money? I think it's bull-f**king-sh*t {To be Continued in Part 04} PS. Want to get Money Coached by Me via collective kickass audio notes? Join my Money Coaching Channel on Telegram. Head over to the link in my bio and click on the first tab that reads: The DTB Channel. 👉🏾 https://t.me/DTBDeka PPS. Forward to someone who may benetit!! ✨✨ You can also connect with me on Instagram by clicking on below link 👇🏾 https://lnkd.in/dBASs99v